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‘Male’ and ‘breadwinner’—breaking the link

Helen Kowalewska 6th July 2023

Heterosexual couples in which the woman is the only earner report lower life satisfaction, according to new research.

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Women can struggle as sole breadwinners because of household circumstances but their male partners struggle more with issues of identity (CrizzyStudio/shutterstock.com)

Many women will, at least temporarily, be the breadwinner at some point in their relationship. Changing employment trends and gender roles will affect many households. But our new peer-reviewed study shows that, for heterosexual couples, wellbeing is lower when the woman is the sole earner, versus if the man is the breadwinner or if both partners are employed.

Across 14 years of European Social Survey data, men and women reported lower life satisfaction when the female wife or partner was the breadwinner, with men suffering the most. This is true even after controlling for income, attitudes towards gender and other characteristics.

We analysed the survey responses of more than 42,000 working-age people spanning nine countries. The data measure wellbeing by asking people to score how satisfied they are with their lives as a whole nowadays, from zero (extremely dissatisfied) to ten (extremely satisfied). Most people give a score between five and eight.

These ‘life satisfaction points’ give us a sense of how different groups’ wellbeing compares. Before any controls, men’s life satisfaction is 5.86 when the woman is the sole earner, versus 7.16 when the man is the only earner. For women, the corresponding figures are 6.33 and 7.10 respectively.

Couples in Germany seem to struggle the most with female-breadwinner situations, followed by the United Kingdom, Ireland and Spain. The issue is however fairly universal across Europe, even in more gender-equal countries such as Finland.



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Men struggle more

In female-breadwinner households, men appear to struggle mentally more than women. We found that a woman breadwinning carries such a heavy psychological burden for men that they would prefer she were not employed at all. After accounting for basic characteristics, incomes and gender attitudes, out-of-work men report significantly higher life satisfaction when both partners are jobless.

Watching their partners go to the office (or work from home) every day might lead out-of-work men to feel worse about themselves. But when their partner is in the same boat as them, jobless men may instead feel their lack of employment is less ‘deviant’.

Men in female-breadwinner couples report the lowest wellbeing when they are unemployed rather than ‘inactive’ (not actively looking for work and/or doing housework or carrying out other caring responsibilities). Unemployment is associated with the greatest psychological costs, such as self-doubt, uncertainty, loneliness and stigma. In this study, we do not include people who are inactive for health or disability reasons.

In fact, unemployed men would rather swap places with their breadwinner wives. Men’s wellbeing is significantly higher when the woman is unemployed instead of the man, whereas women report equally low wellbeing when either partner is unemployed.

Female-breadwinner households

Certain factors may contribute to female-breadwinner couples’ low wellbeing. For example, these couples have lower average household incomes than two-earner and male-breadwinner households, and are more likely to find it ‘difficult’ or ‘very difficult’ to cope on their current income. Additionally, more men in female-breadwinner couples report ‘fair’, ‘bad’ or ‘very bad’ health and are less educated.

When we controlled for these and other basic characteristics (such as age and children), as well as gender-role attitudes and each partner’s share of household income, women’s wellbeing is only marginally lower (-0.048 life satisfaction points) when the woman is the sole earner instead of the man.

Yet, even after accounting for these factors, men’s wellbeing is still over half a life satisfaction point lower (-0.585) when the woman is the only earner. In Germany, this difference is over one full life satisfaction point (-1.112). So, while our study suggests the characteristics of female-breadwinner couples mostly explain women’s lower wellbeing, they do not account for the discrepancy with men’s wellbeing.

Masculinity, (un)employment and wellbeing

In many countries, being the breadwinner remains central to men’s sense of self. Providing financially for the family is key to masculinity and tantamount to being a ‘good’ dad. When these roles are reversed, couples can experience social ‘sanctions’ such as gossip, ridicule and judgement from family, friends and other people they know, as well as mental-health difficulties. Unemployed men may be particularly vulnerable to isolation and loneliness, since they are less likely than women to have community or care-based social networks to draw on, such as friendships developed at the school gates.

Meanwhile, gendered expectations of selflessness may lead women to go further than men in shielding a partner from the true extent of their distress. This could work the other way, too: when the man is unemployed, the woman may be more perceptive of, and negatively affected by, his struggles than he would be if these roles were reversed.

Yet unemployment has become a normal part of working life, including for middle-class professionals who were traditionally more protected from this risk. Our findings suggest that gender norms affect how couples cope with unemployment, with men placing more value on their own employment status than their female partner’s.

Additionally, men’s distress under the female-breadwinner arrangement may trigger women to hold themselves back from taking jobs or seeking higher-paying roles, reinforcing gender inequalities in employment rates, career progression and incomes.

Clearly, there is still a long way to go to sever the link between breadwinning and masculinity. Challenging this idealisation of male breadwinning is critical, so that men no longer feel like failures when they fall short of this expectation.

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons licence

Helen Kowalewska
Helen Kowalewska

Helen Kowalewska is an assistant professor in social policy at the University of Bath. Supported by the  UK Economic and Social Research Council, she is exploring the relationship between social policies and women’s employment across advanced economies.

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